Tuesday, January 8, 2013

On Being Positive and Being There for Your Loved Ones...

Today, in the chemo room, Dad and I met the sweetest lady. She had stomach cancer, and she has been in treatment since August. Bless her heart, she has been through a lot. But you know what? She was still smiling, laughing, and joking. She is positive, even though goodness only knows the pain she has been through. My Dad is that way too, as are most of the people I have met in the oncology office and in the infusion room. 

I have no idea what it's like to have to be that strong; these people have touched my heart. The chemo room was a scary place to me the first time, and I'm sure it was for Dad too, but I am so grateful for the chance to meet and talk with these wonderful people. I know the infusion room is the last place they want to be, but many of them are doing what they have to do and are making the best of it. Also, the nurses and staff in the chemo room are some of the kindest and warmest people I have ever had the pleasure of meeting. I can't imagine how they do what they do every single day, but I am so glad they do. I am so glad that I have had the ability to be there with my Dad throughout his treatments. I've had the most profound change in myself, my attitude, and my outlook on life because of my Dad, all the people I have met, my family, and all the people that have supported us throughout this past year. 

I'd also like to say - to anyone who has a loved one facing something like this, please, put aside any issues you might have had with them in the past. Forget what they have or have not done for you in your life. It doesn't matter now. They NEED YOU to get through this. No one should have to go through something like cancer and not have support from ALL of their family. Love them like you have never loved them before. Put yourself aside, and care for and support them as much as you possibly can. They need you to lift them up and to know that you care and that you would do anything for them. They cannot do this alone.


  1. Something that you can try to help everyone emotionally and physically is Reiki. It has no side effects and can be done at any point in time. It is energy exchange with the intention of pure unconditional Love. The energy knows where to go and Reiki practioners, like myself, intuitively are guided to place hands on or off the body and many people feel sensations of heat, cold, buzzing, etc. Some even have body jerks like when in a deep sleep. I will be sending your family some Reiki today. With all my love and support have faith and see it as already done.

  2. Ben,

    Thanks so much for your comments. There is a Reiki program at my Dad's cancer center - it is free for all cancer patients. Maybe I can convince him to at least try it.

    Have a wonderful day, and thanks again for your kind and well wishes.

    Mary Beth

  3. What a beautiful post. As a nurse who used to give a lot of chemo, it brought back so many memories of the brave wonderful people I have met. A new follower.

    Anne Marie

  4. Thanks Anne Marie! Nurses are special people. :)

  5. I went through this journey with both my parents, but more with Dad. We also met some wonderful people during treatments, some I am still in contact with. I wish you a smoother path for the rest of this journey. xxoo

  6. Thank you Cindy! I appreciate you stopping by my blog :)